If you are shy, it can be tough to know how to flirt. Most shy guys have trouble going up to a woman who they find attractive, and having a conversation.
For many men who are shy, flirting is a frightening concept. The only hope that a shy guy has is flirting through eye contact. While eye contact flirting is very subtle, it can get the point across.
The Basis of Eye Contact Flirting
In order to peak a woman’s interest, you need to make a personal connection, while showing her that you are a confident man.
If you are a shy guy, you cannot just walk up to her and have a flirty conversation. You need to be able to do it all with your eyes.
Unfortunately, most men who are shy have trouble holding eye contact with women, or with anyone for that matter.
If you are shy, as soon as you lock eyes with a woman, you will likely have an uncontrollable desire to look away. It is at this moment that you must fight the urge to break eye contact.
If you are having trouble keeping eye contact, you need to remember that women do not want a man who looks away from a woman as if to apologize for noticing her.
A woman wants a man who has feelings and owns them.
Just because you cannot make your presence known by walking up to her with a great pickup line, it does not mean that you cannot make your presence known using just your eyes.
How To Make Eye Contact Without Looking Like a Creep
Simply making eye contact is not enough. It needs to be done the proper way. If you do it wrong, you can come off as intimidating. If you really do it wrong, you can come off as creepy.
While you may be trying to turn a girl on with your eyes, you can end up making her feel uncomfortable.
In order to flirt with a woman with your eyes, you must give off a warm, friendly vibe. The best way to do this is by smiling with your eyes.
When many people hear the term, “smiling with your eyes” or “smising”, they think it is a joke.
What many people don’t know is that it really is a look and it does attract women.
To understand the concept of smiling with your eyes, you should think about what it is like when you laugh really hard. After you are done laughing, pay attention to the area around your eyes. It should be relaxed.
After you laugh, your gaze will be softer and you can get a better look at your surroundings. It is this gaze that attracts women.
If you look at a woman with a hard, intense, and focused gaze, it can make the woman think that you are a creep and she will become uncomfortable.
When she feels this way, she will break the eye contact and turn away. Suddenly, you have lost your chance.
If you use a warmer, more open gaze, the woman will find you to be friendly and inviting.
How To Know If She Is Interested In You
If you make eye contact with a woman, and she holds the gaze for more than a few seconds, she is likely into you.
If you make eye contact with a woman, and she makes eye contact, looks away, and turns back to look at you again, it is another sign that she is definitely interested.
If either scenario occurs, you need to make your move quickly.
If you don’t she will think that you are either not interested or that you do not have the confidence that she is looking for. It is very important to act as soon as you sense an attraction.
You have about two seconds to act before the window closes and she starts looking for someone else.
How To Act When You Feel The Attraction
Once eye contact has been made, you need to know what to do when you make eye contact with a girl. If you made eye contact, and you can muster up the nerve, you should go over and talk to her.
Try to start off with a funny statement. If possible, start the conversation with fun, flirty banter.
If you cannot get over to her right away, whether it is because the crowd of friends around her is too large or if you cannot get up the nerve, you can continue flirting from across the room.
It may sound difficult, however, it is easier than you may think.
All you need to do is make funny faces at her from across the room. This is non-verbal banter, which will show her that you are a confident, playful guy who likes to have fun.
This will separate you from all the other guys trying to flirt with her. Not many would not have the confidence to make funny faces at a pretty girl.
Making a Woman Chase You With Eye Contact
After you have built up the nerve to talk to the girl, you want to keep the same soft gaze that you used to peak her interest in the first place.
It is important to know, however, that you do not need to maintain total eye contact the whole time.
Early on in the conversation, you should maintain contact just half the time. If she seems like a cool girl, you can give her more and more contact.
This will make her feel like it is a challenge to maintain your attention, making her want you more.
Improving Your Eye Contact With Women
It is important to know that if you are a shy guy, that making flirty eye contact can take some practice.
If you want to look friendly, inviting, and even sexy while you are making eye contact with a woman, there are a few exercises that you can try.
1. Use people on the street for practice: You do not need to start practicing making eye contact with a woman that you are interested in. You can use people on the street.
When you are walking toward someone, and they are about 5 steps away, look them in the eye.
Hold the gaze long enough to determine the color of their eyes. Some people may think that you are strange, but you shouldn’t care. Chances are you will never see these people again.
2. Use cashiers, sales people, and servers: If you don’t walk down crowded streets very often, you can use the people who wait on you in public.
When cashing out at the register, make eye contact with the cashier long enough. Rather than staring at your menu when you are ordering your meal, look the server in the eye.
Just because you are a shy guy, it does not mean that you don’t have a chance with women. As long as you know how to flirt with your eyes, you have a very good chance of making a connection with that special girl.